IS she hot? Because that could change things.
Well considering the male adonis she's going out with, what do you think?
I wasn't intending to paint you as ungrateful for our advice and I realize that my advice trivializes your circumstances. Changing your circumstances by leaving your partner is not easy, and if you decide not to do so, that is understandable, but if every couple of months we get updates about how miserable life is, I will tire of it almost immediately.
I'm not like that, I didn't post this with a plan and I sure as hell don't want to abuse this forum as a way to air my grievances - I posted "to vent" pretty much somes this up. As I said now that I've posted up this whole mess I'll try and let people know what direction it takes for better or for worse, because people took their time to give me a valid response, but I'm not going to give you my relationship updates every five minutes. I'm not the kind of person to whine like a bitch all the time - I was drunk and had had an argument at the time of posting my initial comment so it's not the typical me.
Still it was very useful to know that most people think my relationship isn't good (honestly! If things do go to shit I'll take a lot of solace in the fact "it wasn't meant to be"), and also Magikot posting up his own experiences and Muro debunking my whole "6 years wasted" idea was most useful - not to belittle anything useful anyone else has contributed.
I do think TheDavisChanger has hit matters on the head, to post my worries involes trivializing matters to some extent myself, and so to not expect others to trivialize matters into a black and white context when it's impossible to present people with all the facts on a forum is ridiculous. Any mod can lock this after I've finished posting if they want, people have been most useful and I thank you all for that.
Back to the main topic. My advice begins "Love thy neighbor as yourself." (Leviticus 19:18b) with emphasis on the word "as".
Oh I love myself a great deal when she's not around, love myself to pieces in fact! Xyle religous arguments won't work on an atheist, but thank you for the sentiment no less.